Sistah's Blog

Today's relationship blog is with a little humor ladies and gentlemen that does have a message of encouragement when it comes to waiting on your Mr. Right. Have you dated Mr. Wrong and Mr. Not so Right?   A Mr. Wrong can be defined as a man who does not fit your qualities or checklist.  He has a job, a smile, no aspirations, no purpose, no dreams, and he is a man.  Does this sound familiar to anyone?  This is the guy who is content with where he is and cannot manage his finances.  He is always borrowing money from his friends and when he gets comfortable enough with you, he will ask you to.  The only reason you went out with him was the way he looked.  Does anyone recall what their grandmother said?  What looks good on the outside is not always good for you?  It's like taking a kid to the candy store and setting them free to pick up anything.  An even better reference would be a quote from a pastor who said,  y...

Here is a little spoken word for Monday.  This was inspired by a dream of a man choosing his queen called Choose Me.     Choose Me Choose me because I am beautiful inside and out. Choose me because I am genuine.  Choose me because I make you smile. Choose me because you cannot stop thinking about me. Choose me because you cannot stop smiling about me because I am in always in your thoughts. Choose me not for the shape or size of my hips, my waist, or my breast size.  Choose me for my intellectual conversation. Choose me for my ability to stand independently. Choose me because you trust me wholeheartedly with your heart. Choose me because you love me unconditionally. Choose me because you understand me. Choose me because of your desire to spend the rest of your days getting to know me. Choose me because you want to give me your name. Choose me because you know deep down within your heart and soul I am yours. Choose me because Go...

Teach me how to love you with even a wounded, abandoned, and broken heart. Teach me how to love you by unlocking the love buried deep within my heart. Teach me how to love you  through patience, time, and understanding.  Teach me how to love you with simple smiles and gentle kisses.  Teach me how to love you by showing your queen how to rise like a lioness with her King. Teach me how to love you unconditionally.   Teach me how to love your character and your personality.  Teach me how to love your short-comings and short falls.  Teach me how to love you when your presence is absent.  Teach me how to love you with that look of declared love gleaming from your eyes.  Teach me to how to love you by training my body and my mind to sync with yours mentally, spiritually, and physically.   Teach me how to love you with each touch, each caress, each embrace, and each stroke.  Teach me how to love you as we grow to...

We had the opportunity to interview Chicago's very own talented filmmaker and director Christopher Nolen.  He has a new movie called 72 Hours  that opens today in Chicago and Milwaukee in selected theaters running from February 13 through 19th.  Tell Us about your new movie 72 HOURS. Christopher Nolen : I'm glad you asked that question. 72 Hours is a story that revolves around Chef Cleavon “Von” Burkett (Timon Kyle Durrett), a former ladies’ man who was living the good life with a beautiful wife (Erica Hubbard)--until one day he wasn’t. A heart attack brings Von face to face with God (Harry J. Lennix), and God offers Von a second chance at life, IF he atones to ALL of his exes.  With the help of his best friend (Brian Hooks) and the determination to live, Von embarks on a hilarious journey to seek redemption. Von soon realizes that hell hath no fury like the women he’s scorned. 72 HOURS stars Timon Kyle Durrett, Terri J. Vaughn, Brely Evans, E...

I read an article in the February issue of Essence magazine written by Tony Gaskins, Jr. titled What Makes a Black Man Say I Do? This article raised many questions for me and inspired the current topic.  In his article, Mr. Gaskins gives his valid qualities that will make a black man say "I Do" based on his relationship experience and what made him say I do to his wife.  It is a beautiful article that gives women advice from a man's perspective.  After all, it is the man who chooses his wife and not the other way around.  We are his missing rib and we are to be his compliment and partner.  Without going into detail what each quality consist of  that Mr. Gaskins discussed in his article at http://www.essence.com/2015/01/16/what-makes-black-man-say-i-do .  Mr. Gaskin's qualities in a woman that will make a black man say I Do : She is Whole She is Confident She is not Confrontational She is Authentic She is Driven She is not Easy...