Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Have You Dated Mr. Wrong and Mr. Not So Right?

Today's relationship blog is with a little humor ladies and gentlemen that does have a message of encouragement when it comes to waiting on your Mr. Right.

Have you dated Mr. Wrong and Mr. Not so Right?   A Mr. Wrong can be defined as a man who does not fit your qualities or checklist.  He has a job, a smile, no aspirations, no purpose, no dreams, and he is a man.  Does this sound familiar to anyone?  This is the guy who is content with where he is and cannot manage his finances.  He is always borrowing money from his friends and when he gets comfortable enough with you, he will ask you to.  The only reason you went out with him was the way he looked.  Does anyone recall what their grandmother said?  What looks good on the outside is not always good for you?  It's like taking a kid to the candy store and setting them free to pick up anything.  An even better reference would be a quote from a pastor who said,  you are shopping on the clearance rack at the goodwill store when you are dating.   It's a symbol of desperation and reducing your standards.  Why date someone that is not compatible with you, no common interest, or has goals for himself ? 

How about Mr. Not So Right? He can be defined as not right, but he is not wrong either.  This is the guy that has potential for you to change him and mold him into your Mr. Right.  You might look at him as a project, but like all projects one can get bored.   One would describe this as when you shop on the clearance rack at Macy's or Target.  It's impossible to upgrade an item off the clearance rack once it's been marked down.  So, why would you downgrade or settle for something in between?   Men are not projects that can be manipulated, changed, or re-designed.  If you have to change a man, you should not want him. 

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Dating can be difficult and it can be frustrating, but that's why it's called dating.  You have to weed out those prospective men to the one who fits your quality, character, compatibility, and spirit.  Practicing patience is virtue and being authentic to who you are and realistic.  Be honest with yourself  before wasting your time and his.  Do yourself a favor and say no to Mr. Wrong and Mr. Not So Right.  Open your mind and yourself to dating and meeting like minded men that possess your relationship qualities, compatibility, and relationship goals.

Have you dated Mr. Wrong or a Mr. Not So Right? 

Sunday, April 26, 2015

4/15/15 Small Business Showcase interview with Antwonette Wright "Heavenly Creations Hair Salon"

Welcome to our Small Business Showcase April feature with Heavenly Creations Hair Salon business owner Antwonette Wright. We sat down with her to discuss her stepping out on faith to bring life into her dream of having her own salon.

Photo Credits: Photo courtesy of Antwonette Wright
Tell us about your business Heavenly Creations Hair Salon?

Heavenly Creations Hair Salon was birthed about 10 years ago,  while I was praying for guidance on what I should be doing now in my life and the name just popped up Heavenly Creations.   I had no idea where I was going to be going or when I was going to have a salon. But I just knew that when I got the salon it was going to be named Heavenly Creations.  I was able to make my dream come true on March 20, 2014.   My husband Andre, he’s been behind me as my number one supporter.  It was just time for me to step out. We have three stylist and we are all focused on healthy hair. We will give you more than what you expect.

We are located in Downers Grove, IL at 5133 Belmont Road. We are opened Tuesday through Friday 9am-6pm and Saturday 6am-4pm. We will also come in on Sunday’s or Monday’s if we have to if you have a special thing.   If you’re going out of town just give us a call and we will make that happen. We focus on giving you #1 customer service. You will have an experience at Heavenly Creations. There is no wait and you will be in and out with good quality service. 

What inspired you to step out on faith to launch your business?
It has always been in the back of my head. It was time for me to do my own thing. There were some things going on at previous salon which made it clear for me that it was time. I prayed on it for a month or so and God was like it’s time for you to go this location.  It was a good thing the differences that I had from previous salon owner because if I had not, I might be still renting a booth from someone.
What makes your salon services different from your competitors?

Well, what makes Heavenly Creations different is you want to have an experience when you go to salon. We focus on making you feel like you’re at home with your girls relaxing with your favorite drinks (lemonade, sweet tea, or water).  I try to make it comfortable for the client. It’s not that gossiping or we are talking behind the clients back. We are a like a family and my clients are good with the other stylists clients. We keep it like a family scene.

What are three goals you like to accomplish with your business in 2015?

Hmm, three goals let me see.   I would like to have a full staff working.  I just have one more booth available. One of them is working with women, cancer patients, and young girls. You know, given my services back because that’s another dream I have to somehow give my service back to those who can’t afford to be beautiful to going on job interviews.  I want to make custom wigs for the cancer patients, and inspire young girls that if they don’t want to go to school they can start their own business as a beautician. I want to expand my location, have a nail technician, and day care for the little kids.  These are my goals for 2015. 

How can customers learn more about Heavenly Creations?

Well, customers can pick up the phone and call me anytime they want or send me a text. I try to keep in one on one. Or they can go on my Facebook page at Heavenly Creations like and follow me. The number one thing, just give me a call.   I am real down to earth and  I can probably tell you something that you might not see on my Facebook page.

What advice would you give to women that desire to start their own business?
I say research, research, research. Pray before making any move, talk to other salon owners, and have your short-term goals written down. Take your past experience and either make it fit or switch them to and make them better. Pick a great location. If you’re getting a loan, (I didn’t get a loan) the money you are requesting have that in the bank until your business starts making money.

You can find more about Heavenly Creations by stopping by her business page on

Tuesday, April 21, 2015

Have You ever been in a dark Place (Self Love/Self Awareness Series)

As apart of a new series for Self-Love and Self-Awareness, we like to discuss and inspire someone with our topics in these next couple of weeks. 

Have you ever found yourself in a dark place?  About 3 years ago, I found myself in that dark place feeling depressed, unappreciated, and lost.  This was a point and place in my life where I was struggling with who I was, where I belonged, and where I should be.  I found myself trying to please everyone, but make me happy.  The man I was with didn't see the beautiful diamond standing before him instead, he was trying to mold me into someone I was not.  Have you ever been in this position?

Photo Credits: Pinterest/Phoenix Org -Quote Dr. Steve Maraboli
Over the course of three years, I would loose myself and drift into this dark place.  I was smiling on the outside and crying on the inside for someone to see me.  The battle was real and you find yourself trying to hold it all together while finding comfort in food.    Finally, one day I had to recognize who I was and stop trying to become a woman that I was not.  However, during those years, I would gain 60 pounds of pain, suffering, struggle with my self-awareness, and develop illness that would affect my health.  This was my wake up call from God to seek him, seek his love, and trust in him again. 
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I had to find my way out of the valley.  I had to fall in love with the woman I was and most important change my mindset and way of thinking.  Before I could see me with clarity and love, I had to remove the toxic people from my life that was not benefiting me and it started with the relationship that was not healthy for me mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  Finally, I could see the beautiful woman who was purpose driven and becoming whole fell upon me.  I am 37 pounds lighter and the journey continues to getting healthy for me and not anyone else.  I have discovered the woman that I was born to become by placing my faith and trust in God and falling in love with me.  I acknowledge and administer Self-love to me and accept it's okay for me time.  My self-awareness is what makes me whole again.

Have you ever drifted off into that dark place?  How did you handle it? 

Thursday, April 9, 2015

How many Black men must die before justice prevails?

I have been waiting to see how this shooting was going to unfold since Saturday and it raises an important question.  How many Black men must die before justice is prevailed and laws are passed to sanction cops?  Most recently, a South Carolina Police officer by the name of  Michael Slager fatally shot Walter Scott.  The video has gone viral on social media and it clearly shows the police officer shooting an unarmed black  man who was running away from him.  According to NBC news, Scott was stopped due to a brake light that was out.  Does this sound like a reason to shoot an unarmed black man 8 times? 

Photo credits:  The Post and Courier -Screen shoot of video
It was not until Tuesday, that the police officer was charged with murder after the video surfaced.  Slager's police report was a contradiction to what is seen in the video filmed by a witness on his cell phone and what the officer reported.  Mayor Summey , said "when you're wrong, you're wrong." " When you make a bad decision, don't care if your are behind the shield or a citizen on the street, you have to live with that decision." 

The shootings are not targeted to one particular region, but it's happening all over the country. However, the fear is that one race group is being targeted.   It's time to wake up before a  war against those who were sworn to serve and protect breaks out.  We all know that not all cops are bad.  I have friends and family members that have taken that same oath to serve and protect.

Meanwhile, as the country watches on with the South Carolina case the question remains, how many Black men must die before justice prevails?

Tuesday, April 7, 2015

Are you stuck in Comfort Zone of fear or complacent?

I read a quote on Facebook by Code Black Life that said, "If you want something you never had, then you need to do something you never done."

Think about this statement for a minute. It speaks truth on so many levels. I have heard many people say, they want to do something different because their tired of the same routine. Or better yet, they want to pursue a dream. Ask yourself,  What is stopping you?  Sometimes we find ourselves complacent and in a comfortable position where we are familiar and just don't want to change what is not broken.   Yet, we have to get uncomfortable in our comfort zone in order to shake some things up that makes us want to move on our desires.

For instance, If you want to change your job then you will need to update your resume and apply for jobs. You might make a list of target companies that you are interested In working for.  You might even network with a few people of influence that work for your target company.  Before you can do that, you must get out your comfort zone.  Your attitude and mindset has to change. 

The same rule applies if you want to pursue your dreams of being your own boss.  You must put in the work, commitment, dedication, and invest in your dreams to make them reality. However, none of that can happen until you get out of your comfort zone and do something different that will produce different results. It's time to align yourself with people who are doing what you desire to do. 

It's time we stop talking about what we would love to do and get out of our comfort zone and just do it.  Are you stuck in your comfort zone called complacent lane or the lane of fear?

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Thursday, April 2, 2015

Celibacy, Is this the rebirth of a woman?

Celibacy, is this the rebirth of a woman?  When you decide to give your body back to God and wait on your Mr. Right, is it the rebirth of the woman in you?  Practicing celibacy will help you improve your self-worth, give you clarity, and develop an intimate relationship.   
Women desire for a relationship that has purpose and true unconditional love.  We need a relationship to have purpose not just sex.  A relationship that has direction and true meaning of love. You can reach that type of relationship when you practice celibacy.  Love is defined as an emotion of intimacy. So being celibate for one woman might have a different meaning for the next woman.  Our choices and reasons for waiting on our true chosen husband is to truly be his missing rib of completeness.
Taking a journey of celibacy, one discovers their wholeness, self-worth, and you fall in love with yourself.  If you cannot truly learn to love yourself whole heartily then how can you possibly teach a man how to love you?  It starts with a journey of celibacy.  It's not a purge taken place becoming celibate by eliminating the men that you have been connected to your spirit and your soul.  It's more so a rebirth of a woman of wholeness, a woman of peace, a woman of clarity, a woman of a divine purpose rising to be seen by her King. 
So the question remains, Is Celibacy the rebirth of a woman?
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