Friday, September 26, 2014

Are you a Bitter woman?

Are you a Bitter woman?  What happened that made you bitter? Being bitter is not attractive nor is it a quality any woman should hold onto.  It can be contagious to other women around you.  What is bitterness? Bitterness is a sour taste in a woman's spirit and heart that requires healing and forgiveness from the past pain and heartache.  It's like having a pity party because you didn't heal from the last relationship instead you got angry and grew bitter.  You carry that anger around with you for years instead of letting it go and learning from the relationship what ever it was that you needed to grow.  Instead, you allowed it to eat at your spirit and your opportunity for happiness.

Have you ever noticed that your happiness is another persons misery?  They cannot stand to see anything good happen to you because it didn't happen to them in their last one, two, or three relationships.  They never have anything positive to say about relationships.  They put all men in the same category because of what one or two men did.  Bitter women have a tendency to bring up what happened in the past pointing out your mistakes and comparing their relationships to yours.  They may find themselves judging your relationship based on their past relationships that didn't work.  Any relationship advice that is given is based on emotional bitterness.   

A bitter woman becomes an ugly woman based on her attitude and her actions that made her bitter from the start.  A bitter woman can let got of her bitterness by learning to forgive herself and the person that hurt her.  Let go of the anger and move forward with your life because most likely he has moved on with his life. 
We as women have to deal with that anger from the last relationship otherwise, it will make you bitter and not happy for any of your friends, family, or co-workers around you. Better yet, you may grow old alone due to your bitterness.  Are you bitter?  Do you know someone who is bitter? 

Monday, September 22, 2014

Motivational Monday-Spread Your Wings Dreamers!

Spread your wings and soar high like an eagle into your destiny.  There is no limit to your dreams.  The obstacles that come along the journey will make you stronger and better.  Don't sweat the small things for they are meant to distract you.  Stay focused on what is before you because this is your time to spread your wings dreamers.

Take time to look at your life and ask yourself, Am I where I want to be?  Am I doing what I am truly passionate about? It's time to make a plan, set goals, and create the vision that will get you to your destiny.  Joel Osteen said it best, "Enlarge your vision and make room for the new things God wants to do in your life."  From his quote, we have characterize the Spread your Wing Principles for all the dreamers and dream chasers.
Enlarge Your Vision                           
  • Set Goals and make them clear
  • Evaluate, Examine, Execute
  • Have Faith & Trust God
  • Forgive yourself for your choices and mistakes that didn't work
  • Check Your circle of friends
  • Make & Accept NO excuses for failure
Make Room for New
  • Believe in God's promise
  • Have Purpose
  • Elevate to the next level
  • Surround yourself with likeminded dreamers and visionaries
  • Keep Positive attitude and energy
Remember Denzel Washington said, "Dreams without goals are just dreams that lead to disappointment."  Do you have a plan for your dreams?  Do you have goals set?  It's time to spread your wings and soar into your destiny.

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Domestic Abuse Pt. 2- You Can Leave an Abusive Relationship

Can a woman get out of an abusive relationship?  Absolutely yes, you can walk away from your abuser with assistance, guidance, and support from various programs providing assistance to women and children in domestic violence living.  An abused woman has the right to make the choice to take back her life by taking back her power. 
Many don't understand how hard it is for some women to walk away from an abusive relationship.  The effects of the physical, emotional,and mental abuse takes a psychological toll on the victim. Especially when it's made public to family, friends, and even co-workers she is then embarrassed and ashamed by the fact she stayed in an abusive relationship.  A woman in an abused relationship has to come to terms with reality that her safety and happiness is important. Walking away is not as simple as many experts describe it to be because of the damage done emotionally and physically will require counseling, support, and love from those that truly care.

Sometimes we make the mistake of alienating the victim instead of listening, supporting, guiding, and understanding how she feels.  An abused woman needs to hear and know that she is not the blame for her abuser's actions toward her, she is not the cause of his anger towards her, and she does not deserves to be slapped, kicked, or punched.  If you have never been in an abusive relationship then your ability to pass your judgment should be left at the door.  Better yet, leave your judgment at the car before you knock at that friend, sister, or co-worker's front door. 
Leaving an abusive relationship requires courage and support from programs against domestic abuse. It's the first step that will count that will aid you in the success of getting "You" back and gaining control of Your life back.  Start today by calling the National Domestic Violence Hot line at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) for help.  You don't have to live in fear because you can leave your abuser.  You have a choice to make today. What will it be? Start by recognizing your self-worth and love yourself for the first time. 

6 Tips to get control over your life and leave your abusive relationship:
  1. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)
  2. Love You for the first time and recognize your self-worth
  3. Get counseling and deal with the pain and the anger
  4. Take time to heal
  5. Forgive your abuser
  6. Live your new life feeling Safe again
Encourage a friend, co-worker, or family member to take that first step and ensure them that you will stand by their side without judgment.

Monday, September 15, 2014

10 Tips on Chasing Your Dreams!

I recently watched a video with Denzel Washington giving great advice to a group of men and women about their gifts and dreams.  He said, "dreams without goals remain dreams that ultimately fuel disappointment." He went on to say, that goals on achievement require discipline and consistency. He spoke the truth to all dreamers standing on that stage.

   In order for you to make your dreams fall into alignment with your talents and gifts, one must set goals that will aid in materializing the dreams.  Every person on this earth was created in God's eye with a purpose that is unique to each individual. We are all created with special gifts and talents that require us to tap into and discovery who we are and why we are here.  There is a masterpiece hidden inside of our soul.  Our dreams tell a beautiful story about our lives.  Have you seen a sneak peak yet?  Big dreams require a bigger vision and bigger plan. 

Here are  ten tips that will help you get on your way to chasing your dreams and making them come true.
  1. Write your dreams down (Your vision requires a plan)
  2. Set goals (How you will accomplish tasks to get you closer to your dreams)
  3. Seek out a mentor (Someone in the industry you have chosen).
  4. Change your circle of friends  (Surround yourself with people doing what you want to do)
  5. Take a class (Improve or introduce you to the craft to hone that gift/talent)
  6. Be disciplined and consistent (Do not get distracted by obstacles)
  7. Stay focus on the vision and the plan (Determination is Key)
  8. Stay prayerful
  9. Be careful who you share your dreams with (Beware of the Dream killers)
  10. Do it
Do you know what your talents and gifts are?  Are you chasing and pursuing your dreams?  Do you have goals set that will help you to materialize your dreams? Are you being consistent and disciplined in your craft or study?

Thursday, September 11, 2014

#Inspirational Thursday's-Learning How to Love Again.

Learning how to love again starts with you learning how to love yourself.  How can you give love to someone else when you don't love yourself?  You can start by telling yourself that you love you.  To be able to receive love one must be able to recognize and experience the love languages. 

Learning how to love again can be difficult when you are coming out of a unhealthy relationship.  You can love again because it is learned and earned from another person and love is not lost forever.  It takes time to heal a broken heart and forgiving the one who broke your heart is the key to a new start.  Forgiveness is important so that you are not holding onto the pain or the past.  One must remember, at the end of the day God still loves you unconditionally.  This is the type of love that you want to have in your life with no strings attached.  Unconditional Love is a beautiful thing and experiencing it will be a joy again.

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So, let's get started with easy steps that start with affirmation to ourselves each morning.  Tell yourself that you love you when you are looking in he mirror. Tell yourself that you are worthy to be loved and that you are beautiful. Compliment yourself on your outfit, your make up, and your hair. Validate yourself is the beginning of loving you.  I find that daily affirmations are good for your spirit and self esteem.  This will help you to create a healthy habit for a healthy new relationship that starts with you.  It has to start with you before you can start with someone else.   Finally, write a love letter to yourself that will uplift your spirit because the words are coming from your heart to you.  Have faith in Love for it's a powerful blessing.  You can learn to love again by starting with yourself.

Did you tell you today that you "Love You"?

Tuesday, September 9, 2014

Domestic Abuse Pt. 1 -How many times must you get hit before you walk away?

How many times must you get hit before you walk away? Abusive relationships are not healthy for the women or the children in the relationship.  It sends the wrong type of message to little girls and to little boys growing up in a house where their mother is abused.  Domestic abuse is not a representation of love.  Why do people make excuses for someone hitting a woman? The even bigger question is, Why does a woman stay with her abuser?
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Love is not supposed to hurt you on a daily, weekly, or monthly basis. Whether it's verbal, emotional, or physical no one deserves that type of treatment.  A person should not feel like they are walking on eggshells in fear of being punched or slapped.  The message being sent to the children growing up in a house of abuse is not good for their self esteem, their self worth, and any future relationships they may have with a partner.  For little girls, it sends a message that this is what relationships are made of and it's acceptable to get hit from a man.  It instills in her low self worth and low self esteem that she doesn't deserve better because that is the environment she is accustomed to and that is all she knows.  For the little boy, it will make him angry, he may act out in school, and he will think it's acceptable to strike a woman. This type of behavior teaches both kids a lack of respect for and towards the woman.

Why do people make excuses for someone hitting a woman?  People that make excuses for the abuser blaming his childhood, a mental illness, or his upbringing don't fully understand domestic abuse.  An Abuser is full aware of what he is doing when he strikes a woman.  His main purpose and mission is to have total control over every aspect of her life. It's all about control and dominance. No excuse justifies hitting or beating a woman.  Everyone asks the big question, why does she stay with him? Some women stay because they don't know their self worth, they are embarrassed, and they have been isolated from their family and friends for so long that they are confused.  From my own personal experience, she does not want to be judge for staying with her abuser and she is embarrassed because everyone knows the abuse she was tolerating in her marriage or relationship.  Most important she blames herself for staying and for his actions.  This is truly sad when you witness someone in your family staying in a abusive relationship for those reasons.  The victim of an abuser cannot walk away until she is ready and has had enough to start loving herself.  She has to realize her self worth and get  help to understand she is a victim of abuse.   Hopefully, she will realize who she is before someone has to bring her flowers and say good bye for eternity. 
If you know of a friend, family member, or co-worker that you suspect is in an abusive relationship let them know you are there to listen not judge.

Friday, September 5, 2014

Friday Movie Feature- No Good Deed- Taraji P. Henson & Idris Elba 9/12/14

Welcome to Feature Friday Showcase for exciting movies in the coming weeks.

Are you counting down to the premier of this suspense driven movie with the talented Taraji P. Henson and Idris Elba?  We are a week away from this suspense driven movie that has everyone talking on Facebook, Twitter, and Google.  I am so excited about this movie and I totally love how they starting promoting this movie in August with multiple trailers to draw you in to this movie. 
This is most definitely a movie to take your family, friends, a girls night, or even a boys night out so to speak. It's a must see and I will not be surprised that this movie is number 1 next weekend at the box office.  We will definitely be going out to the movie next weekend to support our great, talented, and sexy Queen and King Taraji P. Henson & Idris Elba.  Another great producer Will Packer has another great hit on his hands.  We support talented Black Actors/Actresses, Producers, Directors, and Filmmakers. 

Check out the latest trailer.  Let us know you will be going out to support this movie.
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Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Are you Inspiring Black Woman or Tearing her down?

How can we as black women support one another in our crafts, talents, and gifts? Why do we tear one another down when one is doing something great or exciting?  Why do we not support one another? We are not competing with one another for we were each given unique gifts and talents.  Why is it that we tear one another down behind each other's back and smile in the sister's face pretending to support her ?  Every woman was placed on this earth with a purpose and passion.  We don't all tap into our gifts at the same time, but discovering who you are is the beauty of that journey.

There are other ethnicity's that support and encourage one another, but our culture of black women is not 100% supportive of one another yet. I believe this is a barrier we can break by teaching one another.  For some reason, there is an attitude "Looking out for number one".  To be elevated in this day and age, you will need someone to teach you, show you, mentor you, and guide you.  We are to uplift one another, encourage one another, support one another, and push one another to be better woman.  It's called giving back and passing a positive torch to your fellow sister instead of bitterness because she did something you wanted to do or didn't have the faith to step out and do.  This is where we as sisters can teach each other, but the attitude of "she can't teach me anything" has to be eliminated. 
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I admire several black women that can teach me, mentor me, guide me, and show me how to be a better business woman and successful entrepreneur.  I have read their books, watched webinars, interacted with them on social media, and asked for advice. I called these women influential and inspirational women like Vicki Irvin, Zondra Hughes, Marcie Hill, and Nikki Woods.  Each of these women as I have discovered share their success and how to do with like minded sisters.  Their journey to launching their own businesses and writing books are great testament and examples that I can do anything that I put forth the effort, dedication, time, and energy. These women have inspired me to chase my dreams with great tips, advice, introduction to others that can guide you. I am walking into my purpose. I am sure there will be many more women that will cross my paths and teach me and give guidance.  We all have been assigned a purpose to our lives and it requires us learning, teaching, and servicing others to tap into and get to our purpose.

Let's inspire another black woman today and not tear her down.  Let's learn from one another and let's teach one another how to be great women in business.  Who are you going to inspire today?