Monday, December 29, 2014

Exclusive Interview with Timon Kyle Durrett 12/23/14

Sistah’s Place2 had the opportunity to sit down and talk with Timon before the holidays and catch up with him to see what’s going on with him.  He is a laid back and humble man destined for greatness. Timon is determined to leave not just a great legacy, but one to be remembered as meaningful, purposeful, and fulfilling.
Photo Credits: Tarji Michelle Smedley

Can you tell us about your current projects that you are working on?

Timon: Well currently, I am not working on any projects in film.  Most recently over the summer in Chicago, I filmed 72 Hours in June that was directed by Chicago’s own Christopher Nolen.  He is a great producer out of Chicago, not to be confused with the other Christopher Nolan.  I played the role of Cleavon "Von" Burkett where I was given the ultimatum to right all the wrongs with women that I had in my life or God (played by Harry Lennix) was going to take me out.  It was a lot of fun working on that film.  From what I understand it is set to be released Spring of 2015.

More recently I worked on a comedic TV pilot called Life Twirls On written, produced, and directed by Kenya Moore.   It’s loosely based on the life of Kenya Moore (from Real Housewives of Atlanta) and her two sisters.  They are trying to resolve their differences while going through crossroads in their lives.  I played the role of Eric, the best friend to Henry (Kenya’s TV Husband to be).  I am hoping that this gets picked up and is something that can be coming down the pipeline.   It was really good and a lot of fun to work on and we did get some good feedback on it.

I am taking a break from filming to work on my writing.  I am self-publishing my first book called Who The Hell Do I Think I am?  The book is a self-help and self-development book. Simply put a concise, plain spoken, straight forward, matter of fact, right in your face, first person evaluation, critique, and fortifier of its reader.  I describe it as a quick read and it's something that struck me one day.  It will be out on Amazon soon and I am real excited about it.  "I am looking forward to getting that other part of my voice out there... so that my space between my birth and my death have significant weight in the balance of time."

What attracts you to a particular role that you are considering to play?

Timon:  There really are a lot of factors to be considered.  I don’t like easy roles.  I want a role that is emotionally challenging, physically challenging, and psychologically challenging. By psychological, I mean a role that forces me to have to dig in, do my research, and use my instinct.  I want to play a role that has not been done 100 times.   I want people to look at the scene and be like,” how did you draw from that?”  To play in a scene, if I don’t utter a word that scene speaks volumes.  For example, The Walking Dead has physical grit and is grimy.  I would love to play a role like that.

If you could work with any one legendary director, producer, or actor/actress, who would it be and why?

Timon: That is a long list; of course I would love to work with Christopher Nolen again.  Working with the entire staff and cast while I was in Chicago filming 72 Hours was the best experience that I had in practicum.  I love to work with directors and producers who convey real messages like Ridley Scott.  I would have loved to work with his brother Tony Scott, but unfortunately he has passed on.  I would love to work with Clint Eastwood.  As far of producers, Janine Barrios is an executive producer from TV show Criminal Minds and a powerful sister out of Los Angeles.  Other directors  include Jermy Saulinier- directed Blue Room , Scott Cooper-directed Out of the Furnace, Kathryn Bigelow- directed The Hurt Locker, Andrew Dominik- directed Killing Them Softly, Scott Walker- directed Frozen Ground.   I like movies like these because when you watch them it does not look like a movie set, it looks real.  That vision is what I love to be a part of.  I want someone watching whether on their laptop or big screen to say, “that looks real.”  It captures the essence of the story not just the surroundings.  The directors allow the actors to bring the characters to life; not just the writing, the setting, and all the other technical stuff.  I like for great directors to allow actors to act.  These directors that I have named allow actors to do just that.  They give actors the pieces and allow the actors to put the pieces together.  In my experience, it makes a more enjoyable filming at least for me it does.   

As for Actors, (man Letrise) that I would love to work with:  Jeffery Wright, Lenny James, Ed Harris, Tilda Swinton, Harry Lennix (love to work with him again), Andre Braugher, Mireille Enos, Javier Bardem, Alfred Woodward, Billy Campbell, and Sean Penn just to name a few.  I have seen them in different roles and they embody those characters so much that they make me believe and I love that. 

What inspires you and keeps you motivated?

Timon: I have been asked that question a lot and it’s always the same.  I want the space that I occupy between my birth and my death to be meaningful, purposeful, and fulfilling.  You know I want significance, a significant weight in the balance of time.  I know it sounds corny (laughs).  As for my acting and writing goes, I want to convey the truest messages portrayed or play very complicated and interesting characters that are real whether it’s on stage or film.  I like to take the viewers and audience on an emotional roller coaster.  That’s significant to me.  I really enjoy that and I think it would be cool one day if my great grandson were to look at the screen and see my work and say my great granddad was cool.  “I want to leave one of the greatest legacies for my family and people who have watched me. I want them to see that if you’re going to do something, be passionate about what you do.”

What advice do you have for our black youth today about following their dreams and showcasing their gifts?

Timon: Know who you are, stay true to who you are, know what you want, and go after that.  That is what matters the most.  In a world where you can be anything you want to be, be yourself and just be great at it.  I have seen so many people compromise who they are and what they want for the sake of popularity or money. There is nothing worse than looking up one day and saying, what I could have, or I should have done this or that, but knowing that you didn’t because of someone else’s opinion or someone else’s criticism.  I have learned that the hard way early on, and as of late the easy way.  If you stay true to yourself, there is going to be a space for you someplace.  Do what you love and love what you do because that is how you really live.”

 You can learn more about Timon Kyle Durrett by following him on his social media at and  He is a talented actor and writer that you definitely want to keep your eye on.
Photo Credits: Sterling Photography

Thursday, December 18, 2014

12/13/14-Exclusive Interview with Thea Camara Following her Passion

Sistah’s Place2 caught up with Thea Camara to discuss her current projects and inspirations.  It was truly an honor to speak with Thea about her passion and dreams.  She truly is an inspiration to all the dreamers discovering their passion and following their dreams.

Photo credits: Justin Harris
What are your current projects that you are working on? 
Thea: I am always working on my craft whether it’s taking classes, auditioning, or working on booked gigs.  I do whatever possible to keep my tools sharpened.  I have a new love for writing and I'm becoming more confident with my writing.  I still have a ways to go. Recently, I was asked by Zondra Hughes of the Six Brown Chick's to conduct an interview with Terrence Howard.  Howard is one of the lead actors in the new TV Show "Empire" on Fox.  I blogged about the experience.  You can find it here:  it’s called “Moment in Time....Priceless". Blogging has become another creative outlet for me

Do you have any release dates for 2015 on the projects you have completed?
Thea: This past summer I had the honor and pleasure of working with one of Chicago's finest Directors Christopher Nolen on his movie "72 Hours". I am excited about this project.   Following Christopher's work and hearing nothing but great things about him.  I knew he was the one I needed to work with.  I played the mother to the main character (Timon Kyle Durrett) and was one of the only female actresses to work alongside Harry J. Lennix in this movie.  The entire ensemble of cast was amazing.  Mr. Nolen took extremely good care of all that was involved.  He truly set the bar.   The release date is scheduled for Spring 2015.

I completed another movie written and directed by Kimberly Connor. She is an awesome female filmmaker and one to watch out for. I worked in her last film called "Jump In" which starred Karen Malina White. You may remember her from A Different World and Fresh Prince of Bel-Air and many others.  Kimberly’s newest movie is titled "Before I Do". Working with Kimberly has been remarkable. She is such a passionate person and wants the very best for you as an actor and everyone involved in the project. She's an inspiration to women filmmakers everywhere.  The movie had an ensemble a great actors including Jenson Attwood and Omar Gooding.  Chicago natives were present as well like Lamar Barnes, Drea Kelly, Harold Dennis, and Michelle D. Ivy. This movie is also set to be released in spring 2015.
What inspired you to get into acting?

Thea: I have to go back to the beginning, being on my parents’ front porch performing for my friends and family. Watching people performed on television and immediately connecting to the performing arts. Performing is truly a calling. Not having the luxury to pursue my desire to become an actress early in life I buried it. It took me a while to reconnect with it, but it never left me. 

 In 2009, I made the decision to follow my passion for acting. I recently left Corporate America, to pursue acting vigorously. Although this is very different for me I have not looked back. I feel more of myself today then I have ever in life.  I just hope that this inspires one person to just lean in and follow your dreams and don't be buried with them.

If you could work with any legendary actor, who would it be and why?

Thea: Well, I have already worked with a legendary actor, Mr. Harry J. Lennix. He is a Chicago native, super smart, and consummate professional at his craft. To have had the opportunity to work in a scene with dialogue alongside him was "Priceless". I have studied him over the years and this was it for me.  There are many others I would love to work with, like Tyler Perry, Angela Bassett, Melissa McCarthy etc.  But right now, I feel like I have worked with one of "The best".

What advice do you have for our young people and black women about following their dreams?
Thea: God has given us many gifts and it's up to us to find out what our passion are.  Ironically, I was speaking with Pastor Darius Brooks about it last night at an event about "Gifts & Passions" he said, 'If you could do what you love for free...that's your passion. He also gave me a scripture to ponder 2 Peter 1-10. This thing right here... performing, commercials, acting, theater, film, and television I could do for free. However, it’s nice getting paid!!! LOL.

My hope is to inspire people of all ages to follow their dreams. There's a reason they're still alive.  #LeanIn

 Thea’s Camara’s advice” It is so important to do the work and not focus on the fame.  If this is your passion then do the work, take time do the character development, background work, and take classes.  The person that needs you will find you.” 

You can learn more about Thea Camara and stay informed on her upcoming projects by following her on social media links below as well as her websites and blogs.




Monday, December 15, 2014

The Best of 2014 Top 12 Blog Articles

As this year counts down, Sistah's Place2 had a great year with some hot topics for our audience.  You made these articles the most viewed and listed in order the top 12 for the year thus far.  There is 16 days left in the month of December and we have some interviews with some very talented actor/actress and author's that will post in December over the next  2 half weeks.

If you missed an article, you can catch up to see how and why these made the list of the Best of 2014 Top Blog Articles:
  1. Book Review -Ladies Night by Christian Keyes
  2. Should a woman ask a man out?
  3. Does Celibacy Make the relationship better?
  4. How do you get out of the friend zone?
  5. How to Identify your soul mate?
  6. Learning How to Love Again
  7. Are you a Bitter woman?
  8. Why are You the Other woman?
  9. Domestic Abuse Pt. 1- How many times must you get hit before you walk away?
  10. Are you Inspiring a Black Woman or tearing her down?
  11. 10 Tips for Healthy & Happy Relationship
  12. Have You ever Acted on a Crush?
We love to hear from you on these articles, which article was your favorite?

 As we continue to plan 2015, we are taking our platform to another level so that Sistah's Place2 can spread her wings to offer our audience more blog articles on relationships, inspirational messages, more celebrity interviews, new authors feature interviews, and movie and theater showcase. 

Sistah's Place2 has discovered the passion for bringing inspiring news that entertains and encourages you to follow what is deep within you.  It's up to you to birth your greatness that is longing to be created.  There is greatness within you.  We hope to inspire you to follow your dreams.  Subscribe to our blogs via email so that you don't miss a article. 

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Sunday, December 7, 2014

Book Review Ladies Night by Christian Keyes

December 9, 2014

Book Reviewed by Sistah’s Place2 – Ladies Night  by Christian Keyes

Book Cover: Courtesy of Christian Keyes

Ladies Night  by Christian Keyes is the first novel from the multi-talented actor, writer, and producer. Mr. Keyes' novel is a well written journey about Amp Anthony, an ex-con looking to change his life by making better choices. 

After getting out of prison, Amp is challenged with rejection as he pursues employment while staying in a halfway house for 90 days. Driven by determination, he works hard to overcome the obstacles placed before him, because he is determined not to go back to prison.   Amp is faced with many of the challenges that many Black men are faced with upon release from prison.
Amp is introduced to Amateur Night by one of the dancers from Club Eden.  This one night invents "Black Magic", the stripper that will get your undivided attention with his sculpted body, exotic movements, and throbbing muscles. 

This well-written book is definitely a page turner with a great story-line and plot twists that will make you laugh, cry, and fall in love with the character Amp Anthony as he struggles to stay true to himself.  I loved reading every page as each chapter held my interest and drew me into the story. Even though, there were moments when it got hot and steamy.  One of the many things I loved about Ladies Night’s storyline was Amp’s heart of dedication and humility.  I highly recommend Ladies Night by Christian Keyes.
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Wednesday, December 3, 2014

Press Release 12.3.14

We want to thank all of our readers for your continued support.  Our audience has grown and we are happy to be crossing over the beautiful seas with new readers from Vietnam, India, Saudi Arabia, Iran, and Ukraine.   We have an increased growth from France, Canada, Sweden, Germany, Poland, Ireland, Australia, United Kingdom, and United States. Wow, Thank you from Sistah's Place2 for following our articles. We are excited to have grown with viewers and readers across the world.  We are adding to our platform in order for us to get the next level. 

 If you missed some blog articles, you can catch up on the most popular based on the most viewed by you our audience.

November's top articles:
1. Does Celibacy Make the Relationship Better?
2. Have you ever acted on a crush?
3. A time to be Thankful

Our most popular Blogs Year to Date:
1. Should a Woman ask a Man out?
2. Does Celibacy Make the Relationship Better?
3. How to identify your Soul Mate?
4. Are you Inspiring a Black Woman or tearing her down?
5. Why are you the Other Woman?
6. Are you a bitter woman?

 After all, we are dreaming big over here at Sistah's Place2 as we stretch across the world to new readers and followers.  We thank you for your continued support. Follow us on Facebook for daily inspiration at



Monday, November 24, 2014

A Time to be Thankful

A time to be thankful for family, friends, and associates.  What are you thankful for?  I am thankful for all the dream chasers, dream builders, ambitious women and men who step out on faith each day to pursue their dreams and purpose. 

I am thankful for the inspiration that I received this year to truly follow my dreams and passion.  Oprah Winfrey said it best, "follow your passion you will find your purpose."  I am grateful for the support of my daughter, family, friends, and readers.  I am thankful for the many teachers and mentors that have crossed my path  to give me advise, guidance, direction, and hope that has influenced my passion of many interests. 

I am grateful for the new circles of friendship, associates of trade, and new resources and relationships being established along this wonderful journey.  I am thankful for the dreams, the visions, and the plans God has placed in my spirit and birthed from my soul.

It's time this week to be thankful as we all head out to celebrate Thanksgiving Day with our family and friends. Lets remember to invite someone that will spend this holiday alone.  A time to be thankful is a time to be loving on one another.  What are you thankful for? 

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Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Would you Relocate to another State for Love?

Would you relocate to another state for someone you are in love with?  Is there a rule that says the woman has to relocate or is it the man? 

These questions are pondered every day when someone is dating or in a committed relationship with someone that does not live in the same state as they do.  The love experts never said, he will find you in the state that you currently reside.  He might be passing through on business, visiting family, or visiting friends and you catch his eye so he decides to get your number.  The feeling of dating someone who does not live in the same state can be challenging at times, but what’s important is the communication and quality time spent together.  One has to know that you cannot do a long distance relationship for more than a year.  It can become expensive to traveling back and forth if he or she is more than 200 miles apart from one another.   Now that is another topic to be discussed at a later date.

Is there a rule that says the woman has to relocate or is it the man?  There is no written rule that states who has to move.  It's a conversation that must take place in the beginning of the courtship.  There must be an understanding of time invested, direction for the relationship, and communication.  We surveyed a few gentleman an the outcome was split 50/50 as half felt it's the man's job to relocate if he is not a business owner versus the other half feel the woman should follow her man especially if he asked her to marry him.

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Meanwhile, we surveyed a few women and they said they would relocate to another state for someone that they were in love with for the following reasons:
  1. If he owns his own business it makes sense to move.   
  2. If his career is industry is dominant/most popular in his state where it will cause him to  commute long distance for work.
  3. If the need to just change scenery to live in a new state that offers variety of career options.
  4. If the weather is better (going from the mid-west to a hot climate state with no snow). 
  5. If there were no kids or kids were in college. 
 What are your thoughts? Do you feel a woman should relocate or should the man relocate?  Would you relocate to another state for someone you were in love with?

Wednesday, November 12, 2014

Does Celibacy Make the Relationship better?

Choosing not to have sex and waiting till you are married sometimes can be a personal struggle. People choose celibacy for so many reasons whether it's spiritual or just choice not to have casual sex with multiple partners.   Does this make the relationship better?  Are there benefits to being celibate for the relationship?  Can you fall in love with someone without having sex with them?

Being celibate allows two people to truly get to know one another and build a stronger bond between each other without the stress of having sexual relations.  The absence of sex allows you to fully see that person's true value, personality, and build a genuine intimacy on another level.  No sex allows a true friendship to develop and be nurtured.

Are there any benefits to being celibate for the relationship?  Yes, there are benefits that are rewarding to the relationship such as respect, self worth, and wholeness.  A real man will have more respect for a woman who is selective with who she chooses to give herself to intimately.  A real man will honor her choice and vise verse a real woman will honor a man's choice to practice celibacy till marriage.   A relationship that is growing not based on sexual relations will have a stronger bond of commitment to one another and true friendship. 
Can you fall in love with someone without having sex?  Yes, you can fall in love without sexual relations.  If we were to look back at our grandparents and our parents, many had to wait for the gentlemen to come and ask the father's approval to court the daughter.  Back in the day, the gentleman was lucky if he got a kiss good night because usually the father was standing in the door way or sitting on the front porch.  One can fall in love with the person's character, the person's spirit, and the person without having sexual relations.  A relationship is not built on sexual relations as that should be a reward that is shared not a requirement to build and establish the relationship.

Do you think Celibacy makes the relationship better?  Do you think it's a hindrance?


Wednesday, November 5, 2014

Have you Ever Got Lost in a Man?

Have you ever gotten completely lost in a man that you forgot your own self worth?  Have you found yourself lost in love?  New relationships can be exciting and fun because you are in the "getting to know phase".  Getting to know a person is apart of relationship development, growth , and nurturing process. One just has to remember to allow time and space between each other so that you are not suffocating one another.  As the relationship progresses, it's okay to want his touch and his kisses to leave you memorized.  It's the beauty of learning someone new and what they have to offer in the relationship.
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When you find yourself loving everything about him from his smile, the way he talks, the way he walks, and even the way he smells are signs that you really like him.  It's adorable and intriguing to have those emotions and cares.  However, when you find yourself given him all of your attention and neglecting time for you to be missed and appreciated then that's a sign you have lost yourself.

Ask yourself these few questions to see if you have totally lost yourself:
  1. Do you find yourself missing church because he is not going or watching the game?
  2. Do you put what he wants before what you need and want?
  3. Do you find yourself sacrificing a game for one of your nephews/nieces or  even your own kids to make it to his events?
  4. Do you find yourself saying yes to everything he ask of you and something's that he don't ask for at all?
  5. Do you stop having "girlfriend time" to always be in his presence even with his friends?
  6. Do you find yourself getting mad when you don't have his attention, his time, or affection?
A few doctors might called your responses if they were all yes, "Fatal Attraction".  But for the sake of argument, you have lost yourself in a man.   Now given many have responsibilities with their significant others and spouses that requires invested time of both parties.  Even they like having quality time apart so that you can grow and share with others (friends or co-workers).  If the loving is that good that you don't mind the short list of sacrifices above then you are not whole.  A man does not make you whole for you must be whole before you come into the relationship.  Some men view this as needy and it runs them off.  Bottom line, don't loose yourself in a man that has not lost himself in you.  Two people can get lost in love, but they know how to share each other's time with friends, co-workers, and family. 

Inspired by new aspiring author, Mya Carter's "I Got Lost in a Man" spoken word blog. Check out her spoken word below.

Author Mya's Blog Corner: I Got Lost in a Man!

Friday, October 31, 2014

Have You every acted on a Crush?

Do you have a crush on someone that you are attracted to?  How many times have you contemplated revealing your feelings or admiration to that person? Was he or she the epitome of sexy, gorgeous, and just down right fine wrapped in one package? 

We all have come across men and women that we yearn for at times, yet it takes a brave soul to reveal their true feelings toward someone of interest.  When you have a crush on someone is it physical, emotional, or truly genuine interest in that person? One must worry whether or not that person will reject them or be flattered by the admiration/interest. Have you ever asked yourself how you would react if someone walked up to you and said, “I have the biggest crush on you and I would love to get to know more about you.”  What would you say or do? 

It’s normal to have a crush on someone as it’s the law of attraction.  We are all human and you attract like-minded people of interest.  Perfect example, some women are attracted to men that have similar characteristics of their father’s and may even have similar physical features that remind them of their fathers. 

If you decide to reveal yourself to your crush, here are a few tips to consider:

1.      Make sure he/she is single.

2.      Ask yourself is this physical or genuine interest in him/her.

3.      Are you prepared for rejection if the attraction is not mutual?

4.      Are you friends with this person and are you willing to risk crossing the boundaries to reveal your crush on him/her?

Have you ever acted on a crush?  Did you tell him or her? 


Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Teach Me how to Love

Falling in love is an amazing and beautiful journey with that special and unique person. We all strive to fall in love with our perfect soul mate.  Every little girl has sat and planned her wedding day with her prince charming.   Sometimes we fall in love with the wrong one that does not mean us any good physically or emotionally. Which distorts what love should be based on past pain.  Meanwhile, for some the journey to healing and lessons learned they discover what true love really is because someone took the time to teach what love represents. 

There is a song by Fantasia with the words:
"Teach me how to love you cause I am ready to learn.
Show me your willing to learn. Teach me what you need.
I will follow your guide and Happy to grow with you."
Those are beautiful words revolved around someone teaching you how to love them.  The journey begins when that special person can show you how to love them through their love languages.  Are you ready to learn how to love me? Before you can be taught how to love someone, you must love yourself first to be able to identify love. 
 Show me that you are willing to learn says I am in a state of mind that is prepared with open arms and open heart ready to accept you for who you are and what you have to offered to me.  Is your emotional state of mind ready to be loved?  Love is beautiful and love is a journey of growing together.
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Teach me what you need and I will follow your guide.  What does this statement say?  Teach me what I need to know about you that makes you happy, inspires you, and motivates you. Let me know what I am doing wrong.   It's a journey of discovery.  It's a journey that will become an investment into a person that will give back a great return called unconditional love.  It's a journey to walk down the isle and take his last name to build a future together and leave a legacy together.

Are you allowing someone special to teach you how to love? 

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

10 Tips for Healthy & Happy Relationship

All couples desire to have the perfect healthy and happy relationship.  Some of our elders who have been married for 50 plus years have given us some great advice on what makes a healthy and happy relationship that seems to slip through the cracks in some of today's relationships.

Here are 10 tips from our wise elders for a healthy and happy relationship that has longevity:

  1. Build a Friendship- friendship is essential key to any relationship that will grow together over time.
  2. Learn to Compromise-learn to choose your battles for you don't always have to be right and you don't always have to get your way. 
  3. Be Honesty with one another and yourself- it's better to tell the truth than to tell a lie or even a little white lie.  Express how you feel in a non-confrontational voice
  4. Trust one another- Trust is earned and you start out by stepping out on faith and trusting him/her because you desire to be in a long-term relationship.
  5. Forgive each other-When disagreements arise learn to let it go and move on without holding grudges. 
  6. Love unconditionally-Love that person for who they are and accept them for who they are not for any materialistic or monetary.  Love does not have a price and when you love a person for who they are it's a great reward. 
  7. Communicate-Keep the lines of communication open between you and your partner. Talk to one another.  Never assume something without asking, no one is a mind reader.  Speak up and keep your single friends and family members out of your business.
  8. Respect one another- as the adults that he/she is and don't talk down to the person as if he/she is a child.  Show respect and you get respect. 
  9. Prayer- praying together as a couple is a powerful tool in a relationship.
  10. Appreciate one another-appreciate each other's time together, appreciate his gifts/talents, and appreciate the little things that he/she does. 
Support the dream & career-Be encouraging and inspiring towards him/her.
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Today, we seem to cut out a few of these tips to make and create our own version of love and happiness.  There is a tendency to struggle as we see some calling it quits after one or two years of marriage and committed relationships.  To have a healthy, productive, and happy relationship it takes work, commitment, and consistency.  Get back to courtship to enjoy an amazing journey of a healthy and happy relationship.  No relationship is perfect and you will have obstacles to face throughout the course of the relationship, but keeping these tips from our elders and you will sail through. 
Do you have any tips for Healthy & Happy Relationship?  Share with us today.

Friday, October 17, 2014

How do you react to being rejected by someone you are attracted to?

Have you ever been rejected by someone you had taken an interest in?  We all had that one, two, or three people that we found ourselves interesting in getting to know more about them on a more personal level past the plutonic friendship.   How did you deal with being rejection? Did you smile and walk away or did you stand there an cry?  Did you result to violence toward that person because you were rejected?    

Rejection is a hard pill to swallow when you truly have a genuine interest in that man or woman.  One has to learn to deal with it and accept the fact that not everyone is compatible.  Most important thing to remember is that people have the right to their own preference for their type of person that he or she is attracted to or interested in dating. 

Just two weeks ago, a young lady was killed because she refused to give her phone number to a man that approached her off the street as she was leaving a funeral.  The result of her no was two shots to the head because he didn't accept her response or her status.  When a woman or man says, "No, I can't give you my number or I am in a relationship"; then you should respect that person's response and relationship.  Even if the person you ask is not in a relationship, and they say no their not interested then you still need to respect his/her response to you. 

 Rejection can be hurtful, but there is someone out there for everyone. Deal with the rejection and let it go by pressing forward in the dating arena.  It's not meant to kill you, but it will help you to re-evaluate and recognize the type of person you desire to have in your life.  Be fair and don't get mad when someone turns you down.  Remember, there will be a yes when the attractions are mutual and you share some common interest.

Have you ever been rejected?  If so, how did you handle it?  Did you find yourself  evaluating yourself, your attributes, and your physical appearance justifying his or her no?

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Have you ever been Addicted to someone ?

By now many have seen the movie, Addicted based on the novel by Zane a best selling author.  In the movie, Zoe is addicted to sex and because of her addiction she puts at risks her business, her family, and her marriage.  It was truly an erotic thriller with various twists that kept your attention through out the movie.  So it raises the question, have you ever been addicted to someone?

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An addiction can be overwhelming and over powering to a person especially a woman given the fact women are emotional creatures of habit.  We love hard and give our all to that special person who has won our hearts.  However, when you become addicted to that person's smell, his smile, his swag, and his physical body sculpture.  You find yourself daydreaming about that person all the time, loosing track of time, and not being able to complete tasks that are put before you.  You find yourself yearning for his simple touch of your elbow.  You have gotten completely lost in this person and it's out of control when it begins to affect your daily life tasks and chores.

In the movie, Zoe has a handsome husband, beautiful children, and her own business; but she was not satisfied or fulfilled.  How does one know she or he is not fulfilled when your better half has giving you sex on a regular basis three to four times a week?  Is the addiction to sex over powering to the point you feel completely out of control?  Sex addiction and porn addiction is real and how a person comes to terms with their addiction is another topic. 

Have you ever been addicted to someone?  If so, how did you handle your addiction?  What was the craziest thing you done for the person you were or still addicted to?  Did you find yourself seeking help?  Would you say you are addicted to your husband or significant other?

Did you see the movie?  Check it out with your girlfriends or husband; however, I strongly advise not to take your children for this is an adult movie.

Monday, October 13, 2014

Motivational Monday-Believe in the Greatness within You

We hear this all the time from our pastors, parents, and mentors about believing in ourselves to be of greatness that rises above all obstacles that life has placed within our paths.  When you believe in yourself the possibilities greatness of you dreams are endless.  Many times we run into people that distract us from being great because they are not walking in their purpose.  Sometimes we accept the position of complacent and contentment based on our surroundings and  the company we keep.  We have to rise above the fears and remove the distractions that cross our paths so that we become our greatest self.  Your journey's triumphs  will override life's obstacles with much greatness because of your faith, dedication, trust, hard work, and belief in God's promise for your life. 

3 motivational tips to Believe in Greatness that is within You
  1. Believe in Greatness- simply means start believing that you are already great.  One must think it and allow the greatness in you to manifest itself in your mind, heart, and spirit.  Do no accept anything less that greatness. One of royalty does not accept mediocrity.
  2. Walk in Greatness-means you must walk with those doing great works, great projects, and a great service to man.  You were created in God's eyes with greatness already inside you. 
  3. Do great service-means that you are not selfish with your blessings for you share experience, knowledge, wisdom, and advice.  The great services is beneficial to the next dream chaser to motivate, aspire, and encourage him or her to do great service in their craft. 
Believing in greatness for yourself means also aspiring greatness from those around you. You are the author of your story and how you decide to write that story is up to you.  A man with big dreams and a vision dedicated to his purpose aspires to greatness not just within himself but in others around him.

Are you believing in greatness today?  Are you inspiring others? 

Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Thank You-September Recap & October Update

Thank you all for your continued support for yet another great month. We have surpassed our August traffic numbers tremendously with the launching of our new website  As we learn our audience, we see the majority love the relationship, inspiration, movie spotlight showcase, and motivational tip blogs.  We appreciate the feedback that we have been getting on our blog articles. Thank you for sharing our blogs with your friends, co-workers, and family. 

Here September's recap:
Top Blogs for Month:
1. Are you Inspiring Black Woman or Tearing her down?
2. Domestic Abuse Pt. 2-You can leave your Abuser.
3. #Inspirational Thursday's-Learning How to Love again

Top Blogs YTD (Since launch July)
1.  Should A Woman ask a Man out?
2.  Why are you the other woman?
3.  How do you get out of the Friend Zone?

What's in store for October?  We are collaborating and scheduling interviews with some of our local and favorite celebrities that we anticipate publishing late October throughout December due to scheduling conflicts with the many talented and busy entertainers these have been pushed to last quarter.  October is Breast Cancer Awareness of which we will pay special tribute to the survivors and those still fighting Breast Cancer.  We want to encourage, inspire, inform, and motivate our readers.  We want to touch your hearts, challenge your minds, and dare you to chase your dreams and step into your purpose.  Subscribe to our blogs here on blogger!

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Finding Time for You!

How many times have you said, "I will make time for me today? How many times have you rescheduled or cancelled your special time/quiet time.  It's easy to get caught up with life events,  family duties, and work.  Taking "me time" can be beneficial to you, your family, your friends, and your job/your business.

How does one find time to recharge oneself? Here are a ten  tips taking from some of our favorite resources that are truly helpful to finding "me time":
  1. Create a me time calendar and schedule 30-60 minutes a day just for you. 
  2. Plan time for just you to wind down with no interruptions to read your favorite book, take a bubble bath, or have a glass of wine.
  3. Take a walk to clear your head and breathe in fresh air-time to reflect
  4. Schedule a pamper me day once a month (massage, manicure/pedicure, or facial).
  5. Learn to say No it's okay because you are one person. 
  6. Accept that you are one person and whatever task it is will get done.
  7. Love you each day.
  8. Have a girls night out or afternoon out to your favorite movie or dinner. Make it something fun with the girls.
  9. Take a social media break for a few hours or even a day. 
  10.  Make weekly goals to do something for you and it does not have to cost you anything. 

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We are no good to anyone if we don't take care of ourselves. Though we are always there for everyone else; how about being there for yourself?  We are much more productive when our recharge button has been pushed. Make time for yourself and don't feel guilty about it.  When was the last time you had me time?

Friday, October 3, 2014

Feature Friday-Great Movies Showcase

Over the last couple weeks, there have been some great movies hitting the box office.  Looks like October will be another great movie month just as September had two of our favorite movies hit the box office and debut opening weekend at #1.  Yes, we are talking about "No Good Deed" starring Tarija P. Henson and Idris Elba and "The Equalizer" starring Denzel Washington.  These were suspense driven and action packed movies that thrilled us all.  We won't give it away just yet since both movies are still playing strong at the box office.  If you have not seen either of these movie then your are in for a treat.

Opening this weekend, we will be going out to see "Gone Girl" with Ben Affleck and Tyler Perry and talented cast line up. October is going to be an interesting movie month  with "Addicted" debut on October 10th and "The Book of Life"  and "Dear White People opening on October 17th.  We will be checking out some great movies this month of October.

Let us know some of your favorite movies that playing in theaters.  Have you seen our two favorite movies for September? 

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Top 3 things you don't tell your friend about her man.

Have you ever been in a situation with a friend where you knew something about her man?  Are you taking that information to your grave?  We took a small survey of women regarding things you cannot tell your friend about her man. The results were somewhat shocking given 3 of the 10 can rock or destroy your friendship.  When we asked why not tell her, the overall response was to spare her feelings and to spare the friendship. 

The top 3 things you would not tell your friend about her man:

1. He's cheating on her:
The thought process is that she will never believe me if I tell her that I saw her man out with another woman.  It may come off as you are being nosey, over-reacting, and confused.   Is it your place to tell your friend that you have seen her husband or significant other with another woman?  Would you be over stepping your boundaries of minding your own business?  The possibilities are endless because she may turn on you for bringing it to her attention something that she has suspected.  Some not all like to keep the blind eye to certain situations in fear of starting over.   

2. He made a pass at you:
When your friend's husband or significant other makes a pass at you that is inappropriate.  The friend might justify it with an excuse that your not his type or that you are over re-acting. Her defenses may even go up and she may insult your physical appearance with a comment like " your not his type" and laugh it off. 

3. You slept with him:
A real friend will not even consider sleeping with her best friend's husband or significant other.  The mere fact that you slept with him shows that your are not her friend.  Regardless of when it happened no woman wants to be friends with a woman who has slept with her man.  It lacks integrity, respect, and trust.

We all have different values of what a friendship is and what boundaries are laid spoken and unspoken before one another. It comes down to the trust, respect, value, and love for your friendship.  What would you do in these top 3 situations?  Are you holding something back from your friend that you will take to your grave? 

Friday, September 26, 2014

Are you a Bitter woman?

Are you a Bitter woman?  What happened that made you bitter? Being bitter is not attractive nor is it a quality any woman should hold onto.  It can be contagious to other women around you.  What is bitterness? Bitterness is a sour taste in a woman's spirit and heart that requires healing and forgiveness from the past pain and heartache.  It's like having a pity party because you didn't heal from the last relationship instead you got angry and grew bitter.  You carry that anger around with you for years instead of letting it go and learning from the relationship what ever it was that you needed to grow.  Instead, you allowed it to eat at your spirit and your opportunity for happiness.

Have you ever noticed that your happiness is another persons misery?  They cannot stand to see anything good happen to you because it didn't happen to them in their last one, two, or three relationships.  They never have anything positive to say about relationships.  They put all men in the same category because of what one or two men did.  Bitter women have a tendency to bring up what happened in the past pointing out your mistakes and comparing their relationships to yours.  They may find themselves judging your relationship based on their past relationships that didn't work.  Any relationship advice that is given is based on emotional bitterness.   

A bitter woman becomes an ugly woman based on her attitude and her actions that made her bitter from the start.  A bitter woman can let got of her bitterness by learning to forgive herself and the person that hurt her.  Let go of the anger and move forward with your life because most likely he has moved on with his life. 
We as women have to deal with that anger from the last relationship otherwise, it will make you bitter and not happy for any of your friends, family, or co-workers around you. Better yet, you may grow old alone due to your bitterness.  Are you bitter?  Do you know someone who is bitter? 

Monday, September 22, 2014

Motivational Monday-Spread Your Wings Dreamers!

Spread your wings and soar high like an eagle into your destiny.  There is no limit to your dreams.  The obstacles that come along the journey will make you stronger and better.  Don't sweat the small things for they are meant to distract you.  Stay focused on what is before you because this is your time to spread your wings dreamers.

Take time to look at your life and ask yourself, Am I where I want to be?  Am I doing what I am truly passionate about? It's time to make a plan, set goals, and create the vision that will get you to your destiny.  Joel Osteen said it best, "Enlarge your vision and make room for the new things God wants to do in your life."  From his quote, we have characterize the Spread your Wing Principles for all the dreamers and dream chasers.
Enlarge Your Vision                           
  • Set Goals and make them clear
  • Evaluate, Examine, Execute
  • Have Faith & Trust God
  • Forgive yourself for your choices and mistakes that didn't work
  • Check Your circle of friends
  • Make & Accept NO excuses for failure
Make Room for New
  • Believe in God's promise
  • Have Purpose
  • Elevate to the next level
  • Surround yourself with likeminded dreamers and visionaries
  • Keep Positive attitude and energy
Remember Denzel Washington said, "Dreams without goals are just dreams that lead to disappointment."  Do you have a plan for your dreams?  Do you have goals set?  It's time to spread your wings and soar into your destiny.

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Domestic Abuse Pt. 2- You Can Leave an Abusive Relationship

Can a woman get out of an abusive relationship?  Absolutely yes, you can walk away from your abuser with assistance, guidance, and support from various programs providing assistance to women and children in domestic violence living.  An abused woman has the right to make the choice to take back her life by taking back her power. 
Many don't understand how hard it is for some women to walk away from an abusive relationship.  The effects of the physical, emotional,and mental abuse takes a psychological toll on the victim. Especially when it's made public to family, friends, and even co-workers she is then embarrassed and ashamed by the fact she stayed in an abusive relationship.  A woman in an abused relationship has to come to terms with reality that her safety and happiness is important. Walking away is not as simple as many experts describe it to be because of the damage done emotionally and physically will require counseling, support, and love from those that truly care.

Sometimes we make the mistake of alienating the victim instead of listening, supporting, guiding, and understanding how she feels.  An abused woman needs to hear and know that she is not the blame for her abuser's actions toward her, she is not the cause of his anger towards her, and she does not deserves to be slapped, kicked, or punched.  If you have never been in an abusive relationship then your ability to pass your judgment should be left at the door.  Better yet, leave your judgment at the car before you knock at that friend, sister, or co-worker's front door. 
Leaving an abusive relationship requires courage and support from programs against domestic abuse. It's the first step that will count that will aid you in the success of getting "You" back and gaining control of Your life back.  Start today by calling the National Domestic Violence Hot line at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) for help.  You don't have to live in fear because you can leave your abuser.  You have a choice to make today. What will it be? Start by recognizing your self-worth and love yourself for the first time. 

6 Tips to get control over your life and leave your abusive relationship:
  1. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)
  2. Love You for the first time and recognize your self-worth
  3. Get counseling and deal with the pain and the anger
  4. Take time to heal
  5. Forgive your abuser
  6. Live your new life feeling Safe again
Encourage a friend, co-worker, or family member to take that first step and ensure them that you will stand by their side without judgment.

Monday, September 15, 2014

10 Tips on Chasing Your Dreams!

I recently watched a video with Denzel Washington giving great advice to a group of men and women about their gifts and dreams.  He said, "dreams without goals remain dreams that ultimately fuel disappointment." He went on to say, that goals on achievement require discipline and consistency. He spoke the truth to all dreamers standing on that stage.

   In order for you to make your dreams fall into alignment with your talents and gifts, one must set goals that will aid in materializing the dreams.  Every person on this earth was created in God's eye with a purpose that is unique to each individual. We are all created with special gifts and talents that require us to tap into and discovery who we are and why we are here.  There is a masterpiece hidden inside of our soul.  Our dreams tell a beautiful story about our lives.  Have you seen a sneak peak yet?  Big dreams require a bigger vision and bigger plan. 

Here are  ten tips that will help you get on your way to chasing your dreams and making them come true.
  1. Write your dreams down (Your vision requires a plan)
  2. Set goals (How you will accomplish tasks to get you closer to your dreams)
  3. Seek out a mentor (Someone in the industry you have chosen).
  4. Change your circle of friends  (Surround yourself with people doing what you want to do)
  5. Take a class (Improve or introduce you to the craft to hone that gift/talent)
  6. Be disciplined and consistent (Do not get distracted by obstacles)
  7. Stay focus on the vision and the plan (Determination is Key)
  8. Stay prayerful
  9. Be careful who you share your dreams with (Beware of the Dream killers)
  10. Do it
Do you know what your talents and gifts are?  Are you chasing and pursuing your dreams?  Do you have goals set that will help you to materialize your dreams? Are you being consistent and disciplined in your craft or study?

Thursday, September 11, 2014

#Inspirational Thursday's-Learning How to Love Again.

Learning how to love again starts with you learning how to love yourself.  How can you give love to someone else when you don't love yourself?  You can start by telling yourself that you love you.  To be able to receive love one must be able to recognize and experience the love languages. 

Learning how to love again can be difficult when you are coming out of a unhealthy relationship.  You can love again because it is learned and earned from another person and love is not lost forever.  It takes time to heal a broken heart and forgiving the one who broke your heart is the key to a new start.  Forgiveness is important so that you are not holding onto the pain or the past.  One must remember, at the end of the day God still loves you unconditionally.  This is the type of love that you want to have in your life with no strings attached.  Unconditional Love is a beautiful thing and experiencing it will be a joy again.

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So, let's get started with easy steps that start with affirmation to ourselves each morning.  Tell yourself that you love you when you are looking in he mirror. Tell yourself that you are worthy to be loved and that you are beautiful. Compliment yourself on your outfit, your make up, and your hair. Validate yourself is the beginning of loving you.  I find that daily affirmations are good for your spirit and self esteem.  This will help you to create a healthy habit for a healthy new relationship that starts with you.  It has to start with you before you can start with someone else.   Finally, write a love letter to yourself that will uplift your spirit because the words are coming from your heart to you.  Have faith in Love for it's a powerful blessing.  You can learn to love again by starting with yourself.

Did you tell you today that you "Love You"?

Tuesday, September 9, 2014

Domestic Abuse Pt. 1 -How many times must you get hit before you walk away?

How many times must you get hit before you walk away? Abusive relationships are not healthy for the women or the children in the relationship.  It sends the wrong type of message to little girls and to little boys growing up in a house where their mother is abused.  Domestic abuse is not a representation of love.  Why do people make excuses for someone hitting a woman? The even bigger question is, Why does a woman stay with her abuser?
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Love is not supposed to hurt you on a daily, weekly, or monthly basis. Whether it's verbal, emotional, or physical no one deserves that type of treatment.  A person should not feel like they are walking on eggshells in fear of being punched or slapped.  The message being sent to the children growing up in a house of abuse is not good for their self esteem, their self worth, and any future relationships they may have with a partner.  For little girls, it sends a message that this is what relationships are made of and it's acceptable to get hit from a man.  It instills in her low self worth and low self esteem that she doesn't deserve better because that is the environment she is accustomed to and that is all she knows.  For the little boy, it will make him angry, he may act out in school, and he will think it's acceptable to strike a woman. This type of behavior teaches both kids a lack of respect for and towards the woman.

Why do people make excuses for someone hitting a woman?  People that make excuses for the abuser blaming his childhood, a mental illness, or his upbringing don't fully understand domestic abuse.  An Abuser is full aware of what he is doing when he strikes a woman.  His main purpose and mission is to have total control over every aspect of her life. It's all about control and dominance. No excuse justifies hitting or beating a woman.  Everyone asks the big question, why does she stay with him? Some women stay because they don't know their self worth, they are embarrassed, and they have been isolated from their family and friends for so long that they are confused.  From my own personal experience, she does not want to be judge for staying with her abuser and she is embarrassed because everyone knows the abuse she was tolerating in her marriage or relationship.  Most important she blames herself for staying and for his actions.  This is truly sad when you witness someone in your family staying in a abusive relationship for those reasons.  The victim of an abuser cannot walk away until she is ready and has had enough to start loving herself.  She has to realize her self worth and get  help to understand she is a victim of abuse.   Hopefully, she will realize who she is before someone has to bring her flowers and say good bye for eternity. 
If you know of a friend, family member, or co-worker that you suspect is in an abusive relationship let them know you are there to listen not judge.