Should a Woman ask a Man out?


You recently found out that he is single and you are interested in getting to know him.  The question is should you approach him?  Is it okay for a woman to ask a man she is interested in dating out on a date? The question boggles our mind, How would he perceive me if I approach him?  All of these questions go through your mind as you contemplate whether or not to ask the fine handsome gentlemen out.
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In today’s time, women are more independent, out spoken, and financially secure so placing their eye on a targeted male of interest puts the chase in full pursuit for happiness.  Some black men are old fashion and prefer to be the chaser and not be chased.  How can one approach a potential candidate if he is old fashion?  Maybe ask him out for lunch or after work drink as a friend to feel him out.  We never want to make the man feel less than a man.  I believe some men find it flattering that we approached them, but when we are persistent it turns into a turn off instead of a turn on.  So, how should we handle the situation and still appear to be a "Lady". 


That  is the open topic question for today and we would love to hear from the men in the audience as well as the ladies.  Leave your comment.  Let's interact today with this bold question.  Let' hear from you, especially the Men? How would it make you feel if a woman (Sister) asked you out?  For those of you who are married, share your thoughts with us, who approached who when you and your spouse was dating?
 

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  1. LetriseAugust 13, 2014 at 12:41 PM

    I will jump start the discussion! I think it's okay for a woman to ask a man out just as long as she does not over step her boundaries as a woman. Meaning, not being too persistent and allowing him to open her doors, pull out her chair, ect. Of course, if she ask him out then she is picking up the tab for dinner.

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  2. Dating ExpertAugust 13, 2014 at 1:20 PM

    I believe that is ok and good for a woman to present herself and her interest to a man. However I do not advice her flat out asking him out on a date. It may seem silly to some, but in my opinion the most she should do is give an open invitation. For example saying "if you ever want to hang out sometime just let me know". Which at that point if he is interested, he will take that opportunity. If he can't take the next step after that, then it would be best to leave it alone.

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    1. LetriseAugust 13, 2014 at 5:15 PM

      Thank you Dating Expert! Very good advice. So, basically open the door and if he bites allow him to pursue you.

      Ladies! Your thoughts?

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  3. WardellAugust 14, 2014 at 4:56 PM

    Ultimately I think it depends on the man and woman involved. I belive it is ok but some men may think it's too forward or too aggressive for a woman to ask a man out. I agree that the most uncontroversial way for a woman to approach the situation would be to make her interest known and leave the ball in his court. In the end we should all be our selves and if she thinks that is OK to ask him out and he really is her kind of man (meaning they have more in common than superficial attraction) then he won't have a problem with her asking him out.

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    1. LetriseAugust 15, 2014 at 7:32 AM

      Thank you Wardell for your comment. I am loving the responses from the men. So basically, a woma can make her interest know to the man of interest and if he is interested then he wll pursue her. Love it Wardell! Thank you again for participating with our Relationship Blogs and given us a Man's perspective that we treasure!

      Alright Ladies, what do you have to say? Do you agree with our men's comments?

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  4. DoriAugust 15, 2014 at 9:36 AM

    I think that it's okay for a woman to ask a man out. If both seem interested then I think that a good simple way for a woman to do the inviting is to invite him out for coffee or lunch. Just keep it simple.

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    1. LetriseAugust 15, 2014 at 12:22 PM

      Thank you Dori! Keep it Simple and inviting him out to coffee or lunch I think gives him a hint that "hey I am interested". I think this way too will flatter him and intrigue him to want to ask you out for dinner.

      Gentlemen, Your thoughts!

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  5. KenyaAugust 15, 2014 at 12:02 PM

    I think it's ok to ask a man out because if you see something you're interested in you should go for it! I also believe there's nothing wrong with paying for dinner if you ask that man out as well! Some people still like the traditional way when a man approaches the woman but it all depends on the individual and what you like and if you're not afraid of rejection! I say go for it! We are modern, independent women now!

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    1. LetriseAugust 15, 2014 at 12:25 PM

      Thank you Kenya! We are bold and Independent women of today! Yes, if you are not afraid of rejection, I say go for it. I would hope that the traditional brother would be flatter that a sister asked him out to dinner and paid for it. It doesn't hurt his manhood for a woman to appreciate the company of a good man. Great Post!

      Gentlemen, What about feeling appreciated by a woman when she treats you to dinner?

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  6. AnonymousAugust 15, 2014 at 3:56 PM

    I think it's ok to ask a man out sometimes to make him feel good and appreciated to see that he doesn't have to come out his pocket all the time.

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    1. LetriseAugust 16, 2014 at 9:18 AM

      Hi Anonymous ! Thank you for your response! Yes I agree with you make him feel appreciated and make him feel good!

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  7. LetriseAugust 16, 2014 at 9:21 AM

    Thank you to all that participated this week in the relationship blog question! We will do it again next week. Because of all of you, Should A Woman ask a Man out is now #1 as it has moved to the top of the list of most popular blogs and it's had the most views all week out of all the blogs! Feel Free to continue to post your thoughts, comments, and opinions on the hot topic for the week.

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